Confidence, as defined via Google.com, is belief in one’s own abilities or self assurance in your ability to succeed.
One of the shocking things I discovered when I searched “confidence” on Google was the amount of articles relating to “Building Self Confidence.” There were articles that gave you ten easy steps to self confidence, or just personal advice on how to be more confident. Why is it so hard for us to be confident?
To put in simply, people find it hard to have self confidence because of the unrealistic goals society makes us believe are “essential.” You must be rich, you must be attractive, you must be charming, you must be intelligent, you must be perfect. If you aren’t these things, well, you’ll never be successful.
Society puts everyone into a bubble. Everyone must look, act, and be a certain way to be viewed as socially acceptable. But everyone is different. Everyone has their unique characteristics. Everyone has something about them that sets them apart from the rest.
Lately, I’ve found it easier to be more confident in my own skin. God gave me the body he gave me for a reason. God gave me the life he gave me for a reason. God has given me my fair share of struggles for a reason. And it can be so easy to forget this.
My best friends and other good friends are amazing. They’re all beautiful and perfect in my eyes. Everyone looks at themselves with a sense of doubt. They see their flaws, not their perfections. No one has a perfect body. Not even models. But when I look at my friends, I see them for who they really are: beautiful inside and out. They’re all loving, caring, smart, funny, and sweet. I couldn’t ask for better friends. And I remind them daily of how amazing they are, because I want to help build up their self confidence.
Being a teenage girl is SO. HARD. Being a human being is hard, but being a self conscious teenage girl in high school or college is god awful. You’re constantly comparing yourself to all of the other girls around you, tearing yourself down for not being perfect.
Well, you know what? They’re probably looking at you too wishing THEY could look like YOU. Everyone has their own flaws, and everyone has their own perfections. Don’t worry that you can’t be as skinny as some other girl. Don’t worry that you can’t have the same hair as another girl. Don’t worry that you can’t have the clothes that another girl has. Because, in the end, it all comes down to their personality and their reputation. What are you going to remember 20 years from now about your classmates? What clothes they used to wear, or how they used to act?
Don’t pay so much attention to your physical appearance as you should to your mental appearance. A pretty face can be a great thing, but it won’t get you very far unless you have a good attitude.
Have confidence in yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Have confidence in the fact that you were born to be someone. Have confidence in the fact that God has a plan for you, one that you might not even know yet. Have confidence in the fact that you are an individual. Your unique characteristics are what people are going to remember most about you. Be unique. Be different. Be remembered.